The Unintended Gift: My first cat, and how cats became my muse

gray and white cat on log
My first cat, Bootsie

Yes, I really did get a kitten in a box under the Christmas tree when I was a child. The story is not glowingly happy and, in fact, comes with a tissue alert, but led me to the cat who eventually became my “first” kitty, and the rest is history. It’s my pleasure to share it at Christmas, the day it all came together for me, my love of cats, learning to care for them and finding in their grace and beauty to muse that would lead me to painting, writing, photography and my life as an artist.

When I was nine years old, I remember telling my parents and my older sister what kind of animals I liked. I don’t know if this was in response to a question, but I do know I explained completely and with enthusiasm, telling every last detail of what I liked about birds and squirrels and cats and dogs and horses and rabbits, all the animals I had encountered in my early 1960s suburban development childhood.

I remember telling my sister that I liked cats best because they were easier to take care of than dogs, and if I had to choose I’d choose a cat. I don’t know how I knew this except that in those days people didn’t get their animals neutered and, except for hunting dogs in their cages, all animals were allowed to roam. Dogs were loud and seemed to get into more trouble with fights and biting people as some roaming dogs will do, and I had my share of small bites from trying to pet dogs who weren’t interested. And then there was the clean-up issue in everyone’s yards, even yards of people who didn’t have a dog, and I was a barefoot child by choice.

Cats, on the other hand, were uniformly small and seemed to be very quiet and gentle and neat, and this appealed to me. I was shy, I was dreamy, I didn’t like loud noises, I was most comfortable in the company of animals, even wild animals, because they didn’t find me odd and weren’t bothered by my silences as humans were, and they didn’t mind when I stared at them without explanation; in fact, they encountered me in much the same way. As an “artist in training” I was a focused observer even at that age. I was outdoors quite a bit roaming the old pasture that was all that was left of the farm our houses had been built on and exploring the woods and waterways of every ravine and hillside, so a dog might have seemed a likely companion for me. But I pictured myself curling up with an animal to read, and that would be more likely one of the nice kitties I had met around the neighborhood.

Every time I learned there was a litter of kittens in the neighborhood, and there always seemed to be one or two litters, I was an annoyance to the owner wanting to see the kittens, and an annoyance to my family wanting to bring a kitten home. Once I helped a neighbor catch two small kittens that had been born and raised in their yard to a mother who had disappeared, and I took them home hoping to keep them, but they only stayed overnight and likely went to a shelter; that might have been a foretelling of rescues to come.

So the dream came true that Christmas when I was nine and there was an orange kitten in a box under the tree, a tiny six-week-old fuzzball ready for play when let loose from the cardboard carrier. I know little Rusty got no respite from me crawling around on the floor after him, and I was thrilled when, exhausted with batting walnut shells and chasing ribbon, he curled up in my convenient lap, a warm, pliable, purring bundle.

Prepare yourself for the sadness, but the day after Christmas he didn’t play as much, the next day he began to vomit and two mornings later he died in my brother’s lap. I was inconsolable, not understanding that he probably had the feline enteritis that killed him before he even left the shelter. With the lack of spaying and neutering, shelters could hardly handle the volume of animals surrendered by people who really didn’t know what else to do. Illnesses were rampant, everyone simply hoped for the best, and my loss wasn’t rare.

I spent the next day with my sister, who had graduated high school and had a job and took me to work with her. My parents did what they felt was the right thing for me, but was the wrong thing for the animal, and while I was with my sister found another kitten for me from a different shelter. Tiger, a handsome dark tabby with white paws and bib and a few weeks older, would probably have been okay if we had waited a few weeks and removed all the toys and dishes from Rusty. When he grew ill, my parents took him to a veterinarian who tried valiantly to save him, but we lost him a few days after the new year.

But I was by no means ready to give up on the presence of an animal in my life. I had been horribly hurt, one of those childhood hurts that remains and with time turns into a lesson. Still, the memory of the pain was not as strong as the memory of Rusty and Tiger sleeping in my lap, their fur against my hands, the dream come true of their purr in my ear at night, watching them play for hours filled with unbelieving joy that they were in my life, they were mine, even for the brief time they had shared it. I longed for it again. It would take much more than two losses to overshadow the joy.

Two months later, after I had repeatedly asked when we were going to get the other kitten, my parents decided to give it another try.

They took me to the shelter this time, and it was my first experience with the pressing overabundance of animals, dogs barking, cats yowling, the smell of urine and the sight of concrete and cages. I crept past them all, really fearful at the strangeness of it all but keeping my eyes locked on the cat cages knowing one of those kittens or cats would go home with me.

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Bootsie waits for me to come to bed.

I came back to a cage at my eye level that held three kittens, two solid gray bundles who wrestled endlessly and occasionally leaped on a third who was cowering in the back of the cage, and who cringed when they came for her. She was gray with white paws and bib and a white blaze on her face, and when they took her out of the cage and let me hold her, she buried her face in my chest and trembled. Perhaps I felt a kinship with her fearful nature, her need for quiet and comfort. Bootsie rode home in my coat, me in the back seat looking down at her and telling her not to worry, feeling her warmth against me, her fur under my hand, her cold nose against my finger.

Because it was winter she was indoors with me until spring came and she was a little bigger, but she went into heat in May when she was only five months old. In those days cats weren’t spayed until they were six months old, or even older, and with my brother and me always running in and out and my father leaving for work in the bakery at night it was impossible to keep a determined cat in her first heat in the house.

We heard yowling and screeching in the front yard one night when she’d slipped out the garage door as my father left for work, and the next morning she was cowering under the stoop by the front door. Two months later she looked at me confused when her water broke on the windowsill and she tried to give birth on the couch, but my mother put her in a box on the floor with a blanket. My brother and I watched her give birth to seven kittens, she losing energy and interest after number 5 but managing to clean and nurse them all eventually.

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Pieface on the edge of the porch roof.

I still remember the daily miracle of the rapid growth and development of four black kittens, two gray and white, one dark tabby with white and one all-over dark tabby—and I even remember their birth order, but that’s probably too much detail. Six weeks was over before we knew it, and we found homes for a few of the kittens, kept one and took the rest to the shelter as everyone did then.

Pieface, the dark tabby with Bootsie’s white markings and a very flat nose, hence his name, and Bootsie went out every night and killed things and dragged them back, feasting on the good parts but always leaving a choice morsel for us. Somehow my mother determined that Pieface had to go, though he was cuddly and purring and friendly to everyone I remember remarks about hunting and the mess he made and fleas, and when he was about three he went to the shelter, too, though I truly never understood what the problem was.

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Pieface returns with “something” in his mouth.

Looking back at it all now, I am shocked at how we took care of them, or rather how careless we seemed with the whole process, from the kitten in the cardboard box under the tree to the roaming cat killing everything from bunnies to garter snakes and taking cats off to shelters when we didn’t want them.

It seems like more pain than joy in the retelling, and with all the losses, the messes, the unwanted kittens, anyone might think that animals were just a trouble to live with, and if it was just about cleaning up after them then, indeed, why would anyone bother?

But I wanted that bond with an animal before I had even adopted one. It was as real as the bond with a human and somehow I knew that relationship went way beyond being a caretaker.

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Bootsie scrutinizes the alien being (my niece Jennifer) from a safe vantage atop the TV.

Bootsie was never playful beyond kittenhood and as an adult preferred not to be touched, but would curl up on my lap or beside me on a chair and always slept with me, and filled a supervisory role while I worked on some art or craft project. And that was all I had ever wanted from the beginning, a quiet, gentle presence to curl up with. If she had been boisterous and playful I would have been just as devoted to her. It was not because of what she did, it was because she and I had bonded that first night while she was still in the cage in the shelter, and we would accept each other unconditionally.

And so it has been with each of the cats who has come to spend some part of my life, days, months, years, decades, and by extension other animals, wild and domestic, that we at least have an understanding if not a deep and compassionate bond. But I remember a brief time when I was away from Bootsie and yearned for an animal in my life, and friends’ cats and dogs didn’t seem to count and I know that for me the bond with animals, especially cats, is permanent and deep. I can not imagine my life not shared with at least one cat who is my companion, my inspiration and my muse.

Jennifer gives Bootsie a kiss while I hold Bootsie in place; she looks less than thrilled.

I think I knew I was a cat person as soon as the first kitten entered my life, and Bootsie reinforced that as my devotion grew. I played with others’ dogs, walked peoples’ dogs for fun and generally enjoyed their company, but the erratic schedule of a creative person and my selfish need for long periods of concentration and quiet not even broken by meals told me I couldn’t be a very good companion for a dog, though a cat can sleep on my desk, turn over and open one eye to see what I’m up to, then close it and go back to sleep if I am still in my creative fugue.

When Bootsie joined me at college in my junior year, I had already adopted a cat from a farmer I had met because I just loved cats and needed a cat in my life. Roommates had cats and even before I graduated there began the eventual parade of castaways, rescues, expectant mothers, orphaned kittens, a never-ending supply of unwanted cats brought to my notice by my deep relationship with that first cat.

From those rough beginnings and witnessing with later rescues injuries, illnesses and abuse, I also learned that keeping them inside, spaying and neutering at the appropriate time and providing an adequate diet and health care helps alleviate much of the messes, kittens and losses and leaves much more room for joy and love. Caring for companion animals has changed dramatically over the past decades, shelter adoptions are very different, and I am grateful that there are simply fewer cats who need homes than there were when I was a child though there are still far too many.

Ceramic tile with cat
Bootsie on a ceramic tile from tenth-grade ceramics.

Today I’m an artist and a writer, and in remembering those early encounters with animals, quietly studying and experiencing, I now recognize my habit of gathering details for later use, and my intense devotion to whatever is my favorite subject—I could probably draw that litter of kittens nursing on Bootsie in the cardboard box. But from Bootsie cats have always been my muse and when the time came to begin writing my first poem was about how much I missed Bootsie while I was away at school , and my first short story had a cat as the subject; later I began drawing and painting and my cats were my first subjects as I tried out each new medium and style.

Because I found painting their images an excellent way to share with others my affection for them, my portfolio is heavily weighted in images of them and I began painting portraits of others’ cats and then dogs as well, and from there my current career was born as I moved out into other subjects and began producing merchandise bearing the art I created. I would not expect to earn my living by this but wanted to work in a way that I could stay close to my art, so I arranged that after years of working a day job and freelancing as a graphic designer and writer, I dropped the day job and am entirely freelance, but this creative activity and working at home keeps me close to my art and gives me more time for it than other occupations would.

So even though the actual gift my parents intended to give me all those years ago was a kitten, the gift they unintentionally gave me was the awakening of my love for companion animals, especially cats, and an introduction to my muse. Just as it was in the beginning when losing two kittens didn’t dissuade me from trying yet again, so, in the ensuing years and more losses, I still happily welcome another cat into my life for the joy and love we would share and the inspiration I would find. I receive that gift every day.

I took the photo at the top, all the rest were probably taken by my sister; I’m so glad I found these.

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  • December 23, 2012 at 4:47 pm

    What a great story! Like you,I have always gravitated to cats. We too always had cats that did not live long lives.
    By the time I finished high school, we had a cat that was “fixed” He tended to stay closer to home and as he got older,stayed indoors longer.
    Years later, I have always given my cats good vet care and make sure they live indoors.
    It is nice to see how, over the years that cats and dogs went from animals to pets!
    It is nice to see your cats and your art works!!

    • December 23, 2012 at 5:00 pm

      Tillie and Georgia, it was certainly difficult to learn the lessons the hard way, but I’m glad we all did, and can pass them along to others who love cats. We hope you have a wonderful holiday!

  • December 23, 2012 at 3:12 pm

    What a treasure trove to have those photos. I only have one pic with my first kitten that I posted recently. Your story is all too familiar to those of us who grew up before the vast resources of cat care. We simply didn’t know any better and yet the seeds were sown being the life long cat lovers we are today.

    • December 23, 2012 at 3:17 pm

      Layla, I remember that photo. I’ve recently been going through boxes of things from my mother’s house, for the second time, but much more thoroughly this time. Lots of memories. I’m so glad we live in this day with what we know and what we’ve accomplished in living with animals, especially cats.

  • December 23, 2012 at 2:53 pm

    Such a beautiful story. There are many others who were lucky enough to have this experience. We understand cats, and thanks to the pet blogging community, we know we are not off base our rockers when we speak of these things. It is very freeing!

    • December 23, 2012 at 3:06 pm

      So nice of you to visit, Fisher. I’m so glad we no longer feel we have to either whisper or lie about the number of cats we have, or that we have cats at all!

  • December 23, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    Amazing story. I wasn’t allowed to have a pet when I lived in Madison as a child. My parents (both raised on a farm) always felt animals belonged on a farm so they had room to run,play and act like the animal they were. But once I was out on my own, I immediately got a cat (because they are easier to care for). I have always LOVED animals. My mother told me from a toddler I always followed the dog around and went down to the barn with him, where I would capture a few kitties and play with them. We have had (in 55 years of marriage) 1 dog and are now on our 4th cat. I don’t even want to think about the day when we’ll have to give Mario up. I’ve already started looking for an assisted living facility that will let us have a cat. I am a hooked animal lover and proud off it. People miss so much unconditional love by not having an animal in their life.

    • December 23, 2012 at 2:11 pm

      Mario, I have a friend who grew up on a farm and ironically wasn’t permitted to have a pet. But like you, it’s in us from the beginning and nothing will stop us from eventually filling that part of our lives with a cat. Congratulations on 55 years! I hope Mario and you two live many more years with no worries about assisted living, though I’ve seen many allowing pets. And if you can’t, often individuals will foster your cat where you can visit or they’ll bring him for visits. I did that a number of times. Thanks for visiting!

  • December 23, 2012 at 11:58 am

    How similiar our stories are Bernadette – although I didn’t grow up to be an artist – I knew that I was a natural-born cat lady from a very young age. I had several kittens in elementary school, all of whom didn’t make it to adulthood for one reason or another. The loss hurt me deeply, but I never gave up the hope of having a cat. It wasn’t until I got Jasmine that I had a cat all the way from kittenhood to mature adult to frail elderly feline. She was with me for 16 years and in many ways was my soul mate.

    • December 23, 2012 at 2:08 pm

      Vicki, I think those of us of a certain age all have a similar story–that’s the way it was in those days. But I think it imprinted on us the importance of rescue, and making changes in the way we took care of our animal companions, especially cats–all cats.


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